What happens after a stillbirth

First, this post may be a little TMI, but people around us experiencing a stillbirth need you to know. Your body does not know your baby died. We experience all the after effects of birth like anyone else. That includes bleeding and milk coming in. Let me tell you that was painful and made everything so emotional! The day before Blakely's service my boobs were so engorged and red. It hurt when Braxton bumped into me and when people hugged me. Our hormones are out of whack just like someone who has a baby born alive. Except we are also dealing with a very traumatic loss of our baby as well. The reason I share this is because people forget. People seem to forget that just because our babies have passed away that we still deal with the after effects of birth. Pain, bleeding, milk coming, recovering from either vaginal birth or C-section. One more reminder for anyone reading my blog who has experienced a stillbirth or infant loss. Do not let anyone tell you that you need to stop grieving and move on. Don't let anyone tell you that you can't talk about your baby or grieve openly. This is one of the most difficult things you may ever go through. You grieve the way you want! It will take a lifetime....we don't just recover from this.